Monthly Archives: December 2013

47 Reasons I Love Andrea Davis

So…on December 12, 1966, the world welcomed the little girl who would someday grow into the woman who became the love of my life. Sandwiched between holidays, mixed with too many distractions, this year her birthday isn’t getting the attention it deserves, so I’ve put together 47 reasons why I love her (not in particular order):

  1. She’s the mother of our children. That alone is pretty big. She’s made our family strong.
  2. She understands the minds of my children, helping them be better people. She says she’s raising future husbands and I think whoever gets them will be grateful for her teachings.
  3. She helps me be a better person. I’ve learned so much from her and learn more every day. It wasn’t that long ago that I would have poo-pooed the notion of “emotional intelligence”, but when it came up in a class, I recognized all the things she’s been teaching me – consciously and unconsciously – over the years.
  4. She makes me laugh. Laughter is so important and I love busting up over something she says.
  5. She laughs at my jokes. And she tells me when my jokes are bad (… though she sometimes laughs anyway).
  6. She has a kind and caring heart.
  7. She’s not sweet. Oh, that’s not a slight – just an acknowledgement. She’ll tell you herself: she’s kind, caring, considerate, loving…but not sweet.
  8. She has great color sense and decorating sense and an abundance of common sense. She knows when stuff “talks” to each other in a room, or when something has to go. If I am resistant, I know that she’s always spot on, so I get over it!
  9. She reinvents herself all the time. I love, love, LOVE that about her!
  10. She’s an artist. That encompasses so much that I hope the breadth and depth isn’t lost by condensing that to three words.
  11. She introduced me to a larger art world. I had no idea what was there. I still don’t get a lot of it, but I’m growing because of her.
  12. She can navigate with the best … even in convoluted cities like Busan, South Korea, she doesn’t get lost.
  13. She’s a great cook. She can adapt recipes, make exotic dishes, and make “standard” dishes better. And her butterscotch has real scotch in it.
  14. She never starts small or easy. Really. She wants to make a quilt? Picks the hardest pattern imaginable for her first (and only) quilt. Reads Julia Childs’ book? Makes Boeuf Bourguignon (a dish that takes eight hours to prepare!) Doesn’t know anything about collage painting? Gets a commission for 50 collage paintings for the Dallas Omni Hotel. Never made a puppet?…
  15. 15.   …makes a giant 13 foot tall puppet. (I bet you didn’t expect to see Rhoda on here, babe!)
  16. She’s a cake artist. What’s a cake artist? Some people frost. Some people decorate. You should see some of the cakes she’s done. For one Navy Ball, she made a Dixie cup out of fondant that fooled a lot of sailors into thinking it was mine from my enlisted days.
  17. She forgives people. That is one thing about her that amazes me all the time. Oh, she may get mad, but she gets it out of her system and moves on and forgives…
  18. …even people who have been horrible to her. I have a harder time with that, but she’s better than I am on that front.
  19. She has a four foot snake whip…and a Taser! What’s not to love about that?!
  20. Where I tend to the technical, she lives on the creative side and imparts that to our children. She asked me once if I thought that not focusing as much on math and science was doing our sons a disservice. My response was quick: absolutely not. I feel that you can learn math or technical knowledge at any time, but I think there is more value learning to understand motives, themes, ideas behind books, music, plays, and movies before those synapses shrivel.
  21. She will go out of her way to make you feel at home. Dietary needs, allergies, you name it. She even had a separate Panini maker for her vegetarian friends when she hosted a Mom’s Night Out.
  22. In Korea, our friend Rick once introduced new arrivals to us, “These guys are great! You can talk about the big four in their house: sex, money, politics and religion.” She made the Gatherings an open forum…or not…whatever you’re comfortable with.
  23. She knows what she wants and gets it. Yep.
  24. She took on a business and transformed it. I’m still in awe.
  25. She handles the finances. Paraphrasing Bill Cosby, I’ve seen that job and I don’t want it.
  26. She puts up with my quirks.
  27. She has sweaty DNA from Rick Springfield’s arm in case she wants to make a clone. How cool is that?
  28. She pushes me in the right way.
  29. She stepped up on the house reconstruction, working hours and hours every day with the contractor to overcome the insurance shortfall. She made it her mission to have our home ready filled when we move back in. And it will be ready.
  30.  She finds me cool beers…beers with fun names like “Santa’s Butt”.
  31. She speaks multiple languages.
  32. She can defy all known laws of the universe in going from kind-but-not-sweet to Momma Bear faster than the speed of light.
  33. She tries everything, because she doesn’t want to be afraid to try new things. She will dive into everything with gusto – welding class, self-defense, snorkeling with manta rays – gusto.
  34. When she likes something, she will stay with it – I’m thinking food here (ordering the same item again and again), but it’s more than that.
  35. She can never have too many white tennis shoes……or black ones….or silver…or…
  36. She has a chair closet. And if you have to ask…
  37. She advocates – for our sons and for friends and for people she met late one night in a line at Wal-Mart. See #21 & #32.
  38. She researches, reads, digs deep – whether for homeschooling, her art or our son’s hearing, she does the research.
  39. She loves technology…as long as it works. (I used to keep a stash of extra keyboards…just in case. Don’t ask.)
  40. She has some really awesome friends (and by extension, so do I.) When she makes you her friend, you stay friends for the long haul. Years can go by between contacts (it’s the military way), but when they get together, it’s like no time has passed.
  41. She’s the one who pushed to home educate our kids…and she’s done all the legwork to make it happen.
  42. She loves to sing and made sure our children were exposed to music…which they all love in their own ways.
  43. She loves animals and nature but has no desire to go camping. Neither do I, but if she did, I would. {But I’m glad she doesn’t want to.}
  44. She’s one hell of a shopper. See #29.
  45. We finish each other’s sentences.
  46. We tell the same stories. If we’re feeling sorry for the people in different rooms as we make our way around, we might ask first, “Did Jim/Andrea already tell you about…?”
  47. {Sorry folks…this one’s private…wink}

And, as my family used to add when I was I kid…“one to grow on”…not the last, nor the least reason I love Andrea is:

She married ME!

Happy Birthday, babe!