Category Archives: Personal thoughts

The thing about walls…

George Carlin was a master of words, coaxing and massaging them like a poet. He liked to take them to extremes to show us how silly we can be. Being the edgy comedian, the words he usually mused were often those that couldn’t be said on television! And he did ponder how some words came to be verboten. In the (anti)social media, we’ve seen once descriptive words become labels and sadly devolve to pejoratives. When a mundane word takes on gargantuan proportions, I suspect George would have had a few words of his own on the matter, maybe asking: When did “Wall” become so divisive? (I couldn’t resist…)

It’s just a word. Such a friendly sounding word. Sometimes we want to be a fly on the wall. We’ll throw spaghetti against the wall and see what sticks. People can be on the fence, which is sort of a wall, about something. Humpty Dumpty sat on one – though that didn’t work out so well for him (curiously, nowhere was it ever mentioned that he was an egg…well, curiously to me.)  When we’ve overdone it, we might find ourselves hitting the wall. Frustrated? beat your head against the wall. Continue reading

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Where did the time go?

Today I have been married to my extraordinary life partner Andrea Davis for thirty two years! Where did the time go?!

“They” like to say “time flies when you’re having fun.” Well, you don’t hit 32 years without having fun … and we’ve had fun!

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I came up with a list of why she’s “Still the One“, and yet a list is so incomplete! A snapshot (in a family album?) glimpse…a moment in time…so valuable, and still, how many more things can I add? More than I can remember. A partnership is a continuum, while memories are a spectrum…they are part of the whole but don’t tell the whole story. I usually don’t mind the forgets, because the remembers tell the best parts…but there are so many more “best” parts!

Thirty two years. Wow. Where did the time go? She still reinvents herself, is adventurous and never wants to be afraid of anything. We’ve moved beyond finishing each other’s sentences to sometimes blurting the same thing simultaneously! She indulges my quirks – socks, beer, coffee, costumes – and more than not encourages them!

The Secret? It’s not a secret. Enjoy your time together. Do things together. Be together.

So, where did the time go? …it didn’t “go” anywhere. We were together, even when we weren’t (I had some Navy in my career.)

I love you, Andrea, and always will. 32 is not enough to know you…I still want to grow old with you!

Selectively social

I am at ease in social situations where I know no one (or next to no one.) I have no problems sitting at a table of strangers and striking up one or more conversations. Working a room of new faces is easy and fun. I enjoy hosting gatherings with my wife when the express intent is simply socialization.

And yet, somewhat idiosyncratically, there are some innately social activities at which I balk. Continue reading

There’s always another horizon…

I’m 56 years old and as my dear wife is fond of saying about herself, I’m of a certain age…

Today, I’m of a certain age at which I contemplate horizons. Oh, not what you think (though that “certain age” does lend itself to such ruminations)… we all have many horizons that we may or may not chase, and that we may not or may want to cross. Continue reading